Sportbladets reporter Thomas Tyna Weekender and photographer Jerker
Ivarsson acquired the following table tennis star with a day in the
They never want to hurt each other, but why their act make others
misunderstand? Why they do that? It reminds me of the Pygmalion Effect.
Praise, trust and expect have a kind of power, it can change people’s
behavior, when a person get another person’s trust and praise, he will
feel won the social support, so as to enhance the self value, become
self-confidence, self-esteem, and achieve a positive power, and try our
best to reach the other side of the expect. We influence each other.
Pygmalion effect tells us, to a person transfer positive expectations,
will make him progress faster and better development. On the other hand,
with one transfer negative expectations will make the person giving up,
give up efforts. Waverly and Lindo didn’t give each other any positive
behavior, so they just can’t get positive response, I think it may be a
circulation. If no one gives the first step, the circulation would never
stop. In Waverly is still a child, her mother didn’t give enough praise,
even though Waverly is growing up, she still feel her mother is against
her all the time. What’s more, they don’t communicate too much, they
even don’t know each other’s real mind. They both refused to compromise,
it results in the conflict be there for so many years.
How does it feel to now be in Beijing – and not play yourself?
This film let us realize the communication problem between mother and
daughter, it’s helpful for us to avoid misunderstanding and conflict
between mother and daughter. No doubt, it really touch me, it is
amazing. Each daughter is mother’s hope. No matter misunderstanding,
conflicts, or something else are the performances of love. The more we
love, the more we hurt. All we need to do is open our heart, understand
them, forgive them, be kind to them, and love them.
R.Halliday：Yeah I think Chinese fans are the best. They are always
behind you，and you can always expect full crowed. I love to play in
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Just like Waverly and her mother Lindo, they have a conflict for a long
time. They never express their real thoughts so that they
misunderstanding each other for so many years. Waverly think Lindo was
not satisfied with her. Lindo think Waverly was embarrassing and ashamed
to be her daughter, and I think this thought hurt Lindo’s self-esteem so
that she always shows she’s not satisfied with her daughter. And, the
reason why Lindo would have this thought is that she is a Chinese woman.
I think Lindo is an aggressive and very independent woman, Waverly just
like her mother. When Lindo was young, she already knew what kind of
person she wants to be and what kind of life she really wants, so she
can leave her Chinese husband to the United States. She is so brave and
intelligent, she’s not often smiling, Waverly is a little afraid of her
even though she’s grow up. Lindo didn’t give Waverly enough attention,
praise, and affirmation. No matter what Waverly do, she just can’t get
her mother’s favour, it hurts Waverly a lot. She is always thinking how
to please her mother. But Lindo never know Waverly’s thoughts. Waverly
and Lindo never had a good communication until Waverly’s getting
J.Le Roux：I didn`t play in China，and it is the first time. The people
welcome me，and I`ll come back
You do not think that interest you waned?
In the film, the four mothers try hard to be Americans, to accept
American values, but in fact, they still agree with Chinese culture. For
their daughters, they didn’t have a clear cognition for china, they even
don’t know how to speak Chinese, they agree with American values and way
of life. When mother and daughter talking, mother used to say “you
Americans blabla ”, and daughters used to say “we Americans blabla ”,
they divided each other into different group unconsciously. So there
must be a little prejudice between them. I think it may be a reason why
June wants to prove her mom is wrong, I still remember when June was a
little girl, she ever said to her mother, “I am not your slave, this is
not china, you can’t make me”. It’s cute, but it also hurt her mother.
Besides, the different values are also the reason why Lindo thinks
Waverly must be embarrassing to be her daughter.
R.Halliday：Great! They are different games and I think 9 ball requires
a lot more and needs better position. You need to play the cue ball
better. But in Chinese Billiard，potting is more
– Lao Wa!
June’s mother is Suyuan. Suyuan hopes June can get the best, be the
best, and be the best piano player in China. She thinks June can be
anything, anything she wanted. Whether Suyuan’s really think so, but
June believes she is thinking and Suyuan had really said so. June
doesn’t like piano and she know she doesn’t have the talent, she think
her mother never see that what she really is. June wants to prove her
mother was wrong, she didn’t have any talent, she is only an ordinary
person, as an ordinary person, she also thought she didn’t deserve the
best. When she grew up, she would say she is modest, always take care of
others. I think Suyuan’s expect must be a big pressure to June, June
will feel hurt if she doesn’t meet Suyuan’s expectation, and she doesn’t
want to let her mother to be disappointed. For a little girl, Suyuan’s
expectation is too hard. June even thought she must be the big
disappointment in her mother’s life.
When the coffee is finished knocking three Norwegian supporters at the
door of the private room and ask for autographs, and would prefer even
photographed with super Swede.
This film is talking about four stories of mothers and daughters. As
immigrants, all of the four mothers have a tough experience before they
come to America, they have A American dream that their daughter can’t
understand. The American dream is a belief that life would be better and
richer. They just hope their daughter not to experience what they have
experienced in China, they hope their daughter can achieve something.
But sometimes they express in a wrong way, so there must be a lot
There are many big shots in town …
“All of us like stairs, one step after another. Going up, going down,
but always going the same way.” This sentence is from An-Mei. It might
not be correct, but in some way, it also illustrates the relationship
between the mother and daughter, we are always linked together, the
feeling we need each other is so strong. Watching this movie, I felt I
saw myself, my mom, and the way we treat each other. Lack of
communication might be the most important problem, why people just can’t
tell others what they really want, what they really care about. In the
film, the four mothers are Chinese immigrants and their daughters are
America-raised, the culture’s different between mother and daughter lead
to the different values, it might be another problem that we can’t
understand each other. So, how to act properly as being daughters and
So he leaves the hotel and step out on the pavement and walk a few
steps. But then he pauses and looks around, slightly surprised.
Mothers always think their kids should get something what they think is
the best, but most of the time, it’s not what the child really want.
Mothers never ask, only commands. In Chinese traditional concept, the
family not only represents the absolute power of parents, but also means
the interdependent relationship between parents and children. But in
America, the individualism values encourage people struggle, stressed
self realization and independent consciousness.
Tired legs go over the edge of the bed and the back of the head are
memories of yesterday’s evening visit to their bar “W & Sports Bar”,
located next to the “Workers Stadium” on Sanlitun South Road. Where the
party was held in conjunction with the Olympic opening ceremony and the
queue outside was long, just like the night.
There are full of confusion and misunderstandings in our life, because
we always think what we think is right and then do the wrong thing.
Sometimes we will feel that we are so strange that we can’t understand
each other. But please open heart and open mouth, try to forgive them.
We never know what they mean to us until we lose them, and please don’t
wait until that time. When people closer, they are easier to hurt each
other, I believe even the misunderstanding is still a kind of love. In
the film, June never understand her mother even though her mother dead.
June said, “I didn’t know anything about her(June’s mother)”.
Q：You played in China for a lot of times，and you also become more and
more famous here. Can you say something to your supporters？
This is where Waldner step out on the street – then hurry back inside
for a long glance at the German restaurant menu.
Lucky, in the last two generations have buried the hatchet. Mothers
broke the silence and have a communication with their daughter. When
daughters meet difficulties and frustration, mothers on their own
initiative to help them to analyze and solve problems, and encourage
them. On the other hand, as the growth of the age, daughters began to
listen to mother’s talk, and gradually understand mother, and thinking
the relationship between mother and daughter. They totally understand
how they care and love each other.
Inside the restaurant hanging game jersey, diploma, framed photographs
and at the back there is of course a table tennis table.
But absolutely, there’s a misunderstanding. One time, after a quarrel at
the dinner, Suyuan told June that she never expect, only hope, only hope
the best for June, it’s no wrong to hope. But she never knows every time
she hope for something June couldn’t deliver, it hurts June. June said,
“And no matter what you hope for, I would never be more what I am, and
you never see that what I really am”. Her mother’s hope just likes a big
burden, not love.
J.Le Roux：I think the pressure is equal to all the players. But I
didn`t feel much
– Good question. But, no, no, Lao Wa is respected in China. People
understand that he developed our sport, and above all, he showed respect
for the opponent at all times. I remember how he matches in the
championship changed verdicts when he even won the ball and gave away
Q:This is a special match for you because you face Team China as well as
the Chinese supporters. How did you solve the problem and how to deal
In 2000 there was a huge board with Waldner in Tiananmen Square, and a
video in which he wished the best for the application to the
HAVE Olympic gold and six world championship gold
PEKING. Jan-Ove Waldner has superstar status in China and is immensely
Restaurant manager Chjris Lee sits down and may explain why Lao Wa is
more well known of one billion Chinese people than, say, US President
Have you good money at the side of?
“Do not think interest waned”
R.Halliday：Yes，when you play in someone`s own ground，it`s not
always easy. But I used to play a lot in China，so I didn`t think too
– I’ll fuck complaining about them, he says and laughs when we step
into and sit in the match arena.
It’s six o’clock in the evening and a day in Beijing is over.
– But it’s not just that he was the best in the world and won the World
Cup, it also has other foreign players made. No, Waldner is the only one
who challenged the best Chinese top players in six generations. He is
the only one who seriously challenged us in our own national sport,
where we have always seen ourselves as the best in the world. He learned
our Asian style and used it in their own game, when it was needed.
A new menu has replaced the tedious as there were before – and includes
– There was some athletes said they thought that was wrong. But all may
well have an idea.
– Yes, then it is not impossible that they lived abroad, then it would
have been the big money.
– Damn, do some people it is! It usually supposed
Q：This is not the first time that you play in China. You played Chinese
Billiard before. What`s the difference between the two
There they get. But when they left with happy smiles Waldner can not
help but smile awry:
– I do not think so. I’m often in China now than I was in the national
team. Now it’s several times a year, so I have seen the more in
television and newspapers now.
Had you been able to take a place in the Olympic team?
– Everyone in China knows the Lao Wa, so it has been for more than 20
years, he says.
“We take more medals”
Jan-Ove Waldner smiles sheepishly when he hears his friend:
In the above role – in the stands
The restaurant has been given a boost with new manager Chris Lee, who
less than a year ago, took over – two days before dealines for claims
from vendors and bankruptcy proceedings in court. The restaurant was
saved at the last moment. Staff who spoke English was hired, the food
was better, the website came to life and large screen projectors that
have been broken for three years were repaired.
– Maybe it was so in the beginning, but now I do not care. I know what
I do, I have both ölsinne and games inside. In Germany, takes a beer
after the game, and I think this may be quite nice.
– Yes, but when I’ve been here a week is enough. It gets so much
attention and long days, saying “Lao Wa” and select routine off from the